The idea for this blog post was born just after hearing a testimony from a female friend about how she was treated by some men in her church leadership–how they basically made some assumptions and some decisions affecting her life, based on those assumptions. My mind went on a huge rabbit trail about how “all men” do that to women. They don’t understand us, but rather than asking questions and trying to understand us, they write us off as stupid or silly or in some other way “less than” how they see themselves.
Then I realized, after I calmed down a little bit, that, first of all, not “all” men do it. Second of all, it goes both ways. I’ve seen wives roll their eyes at something their husbands say or do, rather than taking the time to understand what their husband’s were thinking.
Asking questions and trying to understand doesn’t always bring about the desired results–we still might be perplexed. But when we don’t understand, does that give us the right to dub the other as “less than” in any way? Are we so sure that our understanding is that spot on? How prideful!
Jesus’ second commandment was “love your neighbor as yourself”. I heard one preacher give a reason for the importance of that commandment: all people are made in God’s image. All are sacred.
Part of loving a person involves getting to know them–not banking on your assumptions about them.
Next time you notice yourself thinking less of a person because of an opinion they have or an action they took, pause for a minute, back up, and ask them some questions in order to better understand them, and therefore start loving them more completely.
Men: stop doing this to women.
Women: stop doing this to men.
People: stop doing this to each other.
And while I’m at it: stop doing it to God, too!
Just stop with the assumptions and get the facts! (I’m including myself in this admonition.)
End of rant. 😛